Natural Healing for Fertility: A Letter To A Mum On Her Fertility JourneyDec 06, 2017
Ask, Believe and Receive (or CONCEIVE!)
A letter to a mum on her fertility journey.
Mum, yes, you are a mum. You are doing amazing. Please keep going. Please don’t give up.
Working as a midwife on a night shift, I was lucky enough to glimpse behind the curtain of a new mum who had been on a long, long journey to get to this moment. She stared at her beautiful baby in disbelief with the most powerful mother’s love I had ever felt before. She couldn’t belief that her baby had finally made their way into her arms. It had been a long road of investigations, treatments, surgery’s and procedures, poking and prodding, injections, medications, horrible side effects, suppositories. She almost felt like this would never happen, like her body couldn’t conceive a baby. She was finally here, she finally had her baby in her arms. She didn’t know I was looking, but that love that I felt that day opened my eyes to the world of fertility.
All babies are special, but these babies are special like no other kind. These babies are so wanted, so loved, so desired from before they ever made their journey to here on earth.
The one thing I want to stress with you is that although you think you will never have that gorgeous baby in your arms, so did many of these women, but believe me, they finally got there, and with all my love and healing energy I wish for you to get there too.
Please, don’t lose hope. This is a difficult journey but there is so many supportive women out there that have been on the same journey as you, reach out and connect with those women. Fill yourself with their positive energy.
I specialised in Fertility because I knew there was more to fertility than just investigations and procedures. My medical background as a midwife helped me with this but I knew I needed to know more. I was working in a busy South Dublin Fertility Clinic seeing couples daily on their journey. For a lot of these women I was lucky enough to be one of the first people they met for their consultations. At the same time as I was working here I was also seeing clients in my Reiki Healing practice, and teaching a regular yoga class. I couldn’t believe the amazing results I was seeing with my Reiki for Fertility. A lot of the time I would see mum and partner separately and work on balancing and clearing whatever blockages in their energy life had caused. Usually one, two, three sessions was enough before I seen positive pregnancy tests, regular cycles, amazing improvements in bloods and hormone levels. I couldn’t believe how relevant this was in my passion for fertility. I then went on to train in “Wise Women Yoga”, which was a beautiful course all about connecting with the female body, regulating hormones, cycles, periods. Connecting with your mind, calming and relaxing your mind for fertility. I began teaching a beautiful candle-lit yoga for women course where a lot of women in the class where going through their fertility journey. Not only was this class and yoga beneficial for their mind, body and spirit it was also a chill out 1 hour totally to themselves, in the dark with candles lighting. Exactly what these women needed!!
In my work with fertility I have found many things to work and I really want to share them with you to make your journey more of a positive one.
Number one when I first meet a client is I say “have you watched the movie the secret? Ok, go watch the secret as your homework and we will discuss it next week”. (I love giving homework!). The only reason I ask people to watch this is to open their mind to the “Law of attraction”, in that like attracts like, positivity brings positivity. However the main reason I ask people to watch it, is so that they can take back their control on a situation that feels so out of control.
Louise Hay, amazing author of “You Can Heal Your Life” is also another one of my favourite bits of homework. Louise’s book emphasises the amazing benefits of using affirmations. Affirmations are a fantastic way to change the vibration of energy you are sending out to the universe in order to attract that with which you desire into your life. You will be amazed once you start using affirmations how much you begin to believe them!!
The best way to do these affirmations is to feel all the joyful feelings of having them in your life. Feel how good it feels to be healthy, balanced, fertile!
These positive thoughts and affirmations can be enough to release any negative mental blocks that prevent you from allowing the natural conception process to take place.
Here is a few examples of affirmations you could use on your journey. Stick them on your fridge, mirror, car, everywhere. Allow them to sink into your subconscious!
· I trust my body.
· New balance is coming to my body now.
· My reproductive organs work in perfect harmony with my body to allow an easy conception.
· Every time my period comes I rejoice in the fact that my body is functioning correctly.
· My hormones are perfectly balanced and my menstrual cycles are becoming more and more regular.
· My eggs are healthy and happy to be released during my next ovulation.
· I ovulate around day 14 and my fertility signs are very clear to me.
· My body knows how to conceive a healthy baby.
· The most perfect egg is preparing to be released by my ovary and the most perfect sperm is preparing to fertilize it.
· I allow new beginnings in my life.
My second favourite secret tips is visualisation. The power of visualising is immense! When I first began visualising I created a vision board which was a little cork board that I would stick all the things I would like to attract on it. For example, a new car, my soulmate, a house of my own. I would set aside time each evening to light a few candles, sit in my meditation space or lie on my bed and take each one at a time and spend a few moments visualising having these things. I would go as far as smelling the new houses scents, or feeling the steering wheel of my new car. The more detail the better.
A few of my favourite visualisations that I have found helpful for fertility is to
· Visualise the positive pregnancy test, go into the tiny detail of visualising seeing the two lines popping up on the test, visualising screaming the house down when you see it, visualise telling all the people you need to tell you are pregnant! This worked really amazingly well for one special client of mine!!
· Visualise how it would feel to be pregnant, how the bump would feel, visualising yourself in your maternity clothes, at a pregnancy yoga class, getting your scan.
· And finally, the nicest visualisation by far is visualising how your baby looks, what they feel like, what they smell like, visualising holding them for the first time, or pushing their pram. Visualising them on your chest skin to skin and how their heart feels like beating against yours.
My third and final secret tip, one which I speak about all the time for every person I meet on this journey is relaxation. There is such a high rate of fertility issues in men and women nowadays, this does not surprise me because it is also a time where stress, depression and anxiety are huge. The majority of my work with fertility focuses on this aspect. Our menstrual cycle largely depends on hormones, and the one way for us to regulate our hormones naturally is by relieving stress hormones and increasing happy hormones. By taking up a relaxing yoga or meditation class this will lower any adrenaline and cortisol (stress hormones) and increase melatonin, endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin (happy hormones). They will also regulate your cycle by regulating progesterone, oestrogen etc. Finally, finding a healer that you connect with, that you can go for regular energy clearings is so important during this time. It helps with side effects from medication, and reduces stress aswell as clearing any blockages in your energy field relating to the cause of fertility complications.
So finally mum, keep going. I understand this is difficult, I understand your tired and are thinking “why me”, but keep going. Reach out and speak to people you love about what is going on. You are doing amazing and I am so proud of you.
Sending all my love and support and healing light your way.
Lots of Love,
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